It is Okay to Let Go
Salam Ramadhan! Can’t believe
today is already the 10th day of fasting. How time flies so quickly.
I haven’t posted anything since last March and it is already half of the year!
The way the time passed by is so surreal! – but it helped me a lot.
2017, so far, has been great. I
learned a lot as a human being especially about self-managing my thoughts and
emotions. Boy I tell ya these “inner feelings” are not very easy to handle.
Early of this year, I have made a
pledge to myself that this year is going to be all about me. I wanted to be
“selfish” for the first time in my life. I wanted to really focus on myself. To
take care of myself physically and mentally and be happy about it. It was fine
for the first few months. I even managed to lose some weight (healthily, by
eating right and lots and lots of exercise)
However, as confident as I was,
later did I find out that fate has prepared another path for me to step into.
Or I guess it was because of my ill-decision making and the thought of giving
out chances to people easily were really the main reason it all happened.
My plan backfired.
I started to care for someone.
This time was different because I
have never felt I needed to care for a guy other than my Father, ever.
And this is the part where I should
blame myself because I knew it was wrong all the time.
Now before I proceed, let me
clarify the fact that I can and chose to talk about this because :-
- The person is no longer important in my life
- I am stable emotionally and physically
- I can laugh about this
- I want to provide a real life example/experience to any girls/young ladies whom are probably reading this right now. The more realistic a story is, the more we are able to relate, the better the impact.
- A few acquaintances came to me, heartbroken and shared their stories with me. Pretending like I was strong and A-okay, I had to entertain them, just because these people who came to me are extremely valuable I can say no more.
Now back to my confession.
Yes. I started to care for
someone. Boy I thought this time was going to be it! Why? Because the way the
feeling developed was way different than before. For me, this time around was a
bit more matured. That’s me saying all these. For only God knows best, yeah?
Okay so I am not going to go deeply into this. I was just frustrated because I
had to let it all go after acknowledging the fact that the other party seemed
to put no value into what has been invested throughout the course of our
friendship, I would say. Goodbye was so easy for him. Very.
And I was left confused. First by
his action. And then by looking at a bigger picture, I could not see why God
even allowed that person to cross-path my life and be part of a temporary sweet
liaison.
Only slowly, after numerous
amount of prayers and questions do I see the beauty of it all.
So Ladies, let me tell you this :
It is okay to let go.
The scope of letting go is not
only restricted to love and relationships, but to all matters!
I don’t say it is easy but it is
doable.
Yes you may require some time to heal. Yes it may be difficult, but
have you asked yourself why?
Is it because you haven’t got
enough of it? Or are you just so scared to let go because you may not have this
kind of opportunity ever again?
Here’s a few tips :-
- Forget the past (Can't do anything no more)
- Live in the present moment (Your main focus)
- Do not control your future (Not your job anyway)
Coming from my side of the story,
once I was able to really let the past stays in the past, surprisingly I managed
to see, vividly, who’s who in my life. My social calendar literally doubled! I
got to spend my time with those who really do cherish my presence, my time, my
effort and the love I am willing to pour out wholeheartedly to the friendships
and the bonds between us all. I was chasing the wrong thing from a wrong source
all this while.
If you have been following my Instagram,
there was a caption for one of my recent uploaded image in which was expressed,
as follows :-
“All the Loves you received are His. He channels His eternal Love for
you through the best parents in the world, through that awesome circle of
friends who genuinely care for you and are willing to invest emotionally and
physically for you.. All your encounters are chosen and carefully tailored to
fit your needs and characters as a unique human being.
So it’s okay to Love. Because pure Love is beautiful. Love is never
wrong. Obsession is. Love is not Obsession.
Love is God. Chase for the right type of Love = Chase God.
After all, He holds all the feelings in the universe… we are nothing
but just a medium for distribution ..a channel.
So don’t chase among us.. chase Him. Ok?”
I really do mean it.
Let God take control of you. Put
trust in Him in whatever you want to do or achieve in life! You’ll be surprised
and you’ll love it.
It is quite personal to explain
everything here but my point is..
Yes, it is extremely OKAY to let
go. Let go one God gives you three! (My personal ratio, could be more for you
hehe)
So?
Let.It.Go
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